Is Your Obsession With Weight Loss Making You Fat?
Have you tried to lose weight, only to find yourself sneaking into the kitchen snacking on foods that aren’t healthy for you? Or have you ignored your hunger in an attempt to lose weight, but started to obsessively fantasize, and perhaps even salivate, at the thought of food?
I came to a point in healing my relationship with food, when I realized that that my obsession with weight was exponentially driving my compulsive eating habits. As I desperately tried to lose that last 10 lbs to become a “perfect model of health and beauty” I became fixated on food. I would spend hours planning and preparing healthy meals to have on hand in case I got hungry. I was trying to avoid making poor choices, but sometimes I’d end up eating two days worth of those “healthy weight loss meals” in one sitting!
There were times when I’d eat a healthy afternoon snack, which truthfully turned into more of a meal, before a dinner party because I was worried there wouldn’t be any healthy choices available. But then I’d end up eating my second dinner two hours later in order to fit in.
Then I remembered something I learned from Tony Robbins, “whatever you focus on grows.” I realized that the more I focused on weight loss, trying as hard as I could not to eat, the more I wanted to eat. Similarly I was reminded of an old saying, “Whatever you think about, don’t think about pink elephants. Are you thinking about elephants? Sometimes the best thing you can do to lose weight is FORGET about weight loss!
I realized that no matter what I did, or how hard I tried to lose weight, I couldn’t stop eating. So, I stopped trying. At first it was challenging to appreciate my curvaceous figure, especially when I couldn’t fit into my jeans. But I knew I had nothing to lose. My old strategies of control and deprivation weren’t working any longer. I was ready to love myself, even the parts I despised.
As I relaxed around food and focused on my beauty, instead of my imperfections, I began to feel beautiful. I learned to make the best choice possible. If there weren’t foods to my liking, I simply ate less. I’ve learned to wait until dinner! I’m thrilled with the results. Food tastes so much better when you don’t ruin your appetite.
Forget about weight loss and learn to love your body! Make healthy choices based on what feels right to you each moment, instead of eating foods you think you “should” eat because they have the least amount of calories. If you eat what you really want, you’ll feel satisfied and most likely eat less overall. Focus on feeling good and let me know what happens☺
And above all, please be patient and kind with yourself as you change your eating habits. I’m here to help you.